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Visiting colleges

I am deep within the season of college visits with my high school senior: actually, I’m nearing the end. As I’m told switching colleges (and majors) can be quite expensive, I want to make sure that wherever my daughter lands, she’s there for good (until she graduates, of course). So, we’ve been visiting colleges. Lots of them. Sometimes repeatedly.

The whole process has been time consuming, but to make the most of our visits, I try to do a fair amount of preparation before our trips. Here’s a checklist I put together to better prepare me for each sojourn:

1. Register for the event

Chances are, your early visits will be in response to pre-arranged “open houses” and similar events. Typically, the college will want you to register for the event. In theory, the more colleges see your child’s name in their registration lists, the more favorably they’ll look upon her during application time. Regardless, I always try to register. Also, don’t wait until the day before: sometimes the registration links will expire a day or two before the event.

2. Map it out

Plan out your route a day or two before. Figure out what building you need to be at, when, and where you can park in close proximity. By mapping out your driving route, say with Google Maps, you can also figure out how early you need to hit the road. Here’s a pro tip: see if the college you’re headed to has a mobile app. Mobile apps can be great for navigating a large campus. Otherwise, try to print out a campus map. Here’s another pro tip: see if the college recommends a particular parking garage. Occasionally, they’ll validate!

3. Plan ahead for weather

We’ve visited campuses in the hot summer sun and on cold, snowy days in January. Check with your favorite weather app ahead of time to know what sort of weather to expect.

4. Dress accordingly

Obviously, dress for the weather including bringing an umbrella if you expect rain. Think about wearing comfortable shoes, particularly if you anticipate a tour of a large campus. Remember that this is a chance to make an impression on the school’s admissions staff, so your child and you should dress decently.

5. Bring questions

Admissions staff always ask attendees if they have questions. Have some. Your child should have some, too. If you can’t think of any yourself, just Google for some. I have my own list that I print out when we go on visits.

6. Bring pen and paper

I always bring at least one notebook and several pens for taking notes. I also bring a clipboard so that it’s a little easier for me to take notes if I find myself on a walking tour. When I get back home, I try to type up all my notes electronically so that I can easily reference them later.

7. Bring other helpful items

I bring a small backpack in which I house my notebook, pens, and clipboard. Since I like to be prepared, I usually bring other items including:

  • Bottled water
  • Snacks and protein bars
  • A small portable battery and cables for charging phones
  • A flashlight…just in case

8. Look through any handout material

Obviously, any handout material you receive should help answer some of your questions. It will include contact information where you can follow up with questions you think of later. Occasionally, colleges may even include coupons for the bookstore and/or local eating establishments.

9. Score the school

You could be doing this whole college visit thing for up to a year or more. By the fourth or fifth school, you may even begin forgetting the earlier ones. Aside from taking decent notes on each school, you should objectively score them against criteria that’s important to you. For example, if graduating in the smallest amount of time is important to you, you might ask yourself: “I have a strong likelihood of graduating in four years from this school.” Then, based on the information you’ve gleaned from you visit, you might score that statement from one to five with five being the highest likelihood. Come up with a variety of similar questions that reflect what’s important to you in a school and put them in a scorecard. Either during the visit or shortly after it’s over, have your child fill it out. Later, record those scores in Google sheets or other spreadsheet software. Eventually, you can tally those scores to see which school scores highest. Here’s a scorecard I’ve used in the past.

10. Pick your visits thoughtfully

Most admissions counselors say–and it’s probably true–that the best time to visit a school is during the school year, when you and your child can see the hustle and bustle of school life and better make a determination if the “vibe” is right for your child. Of course, visiting at these times introduces a few other concerns: 1) you’ll likely be visiting during the work week which means you’ll probably have to burn a vacation day and 2) when the campus is full, the parking lots may be, as well. Also pay attention to the school’s sports schedule: you’ll probably want to avoid a visit to a Big 10 school when their football team is playing.

Ideas for a great family reunion

Recently, my family organized and held a family reunion. It went quite well and here are some ideas I plucked from the experience that, I think, helped make it so:

Pick a geographically convenient location

Fortunately, most of this side of my family is spread across only two states, predominantly in Indiana. So, our organizers picked a relatively convenient location there. Furthermore, they found an air-conditioned, indoor facility that made the whole affair much more comfortable.

Send occasional reminders leading up to the event

The organizers sent occasional, but not overly frequent, email reminders leading up to the event. They made sure to include all the essential information such as the start time, address, and special requests, such as bringing food dishes and so forth. RSVPs should be gathered, as well, in order to better estimate the food demands.

Serve food and snacks

Nothing brings a family together like food and we had plenty of it. Food, snacks, and drinks seem to be essential for a successful reunion.

Take pictures

Pictures are a critical takeaway from a reunion. To really maximize this opportunity, the organizers created a detailed list of the group pictures they wanted to collect. They designated one of our family members with a penchant for photography as the official photographer, identified an area of the facility as the “photo studio”, and began working through the list from nearly the start of the affair. All said, it worked out great!

Take video

I was designated the official videographer, so I wondered through the event taking video of family talking, playing games, and even posing for photos. One thing I may try for next year is to have each attendee say a few words about himself or his family on camera. That might make for a nice reunion video montage someday.

Set up props

Having photo albums and pictures on hand to look through helps family members connect with and appreciate their ancestors. They also make for great conversation starters: “Doesn’t baby Ava look a lot like that baby picture of Great-Grandmother Bernice?” As I have digitized hundreds of pictures over the years and collected hours of family video, I put together slideshows and videos that I ran off a Raspberry Pi. For multimedia props like these, plan ahead: I brought a project with the plan to project my presentations on a wall. Fortunately, though, the facility had several flatscreen TVs available and I was able to plug my Raspberry Pi into one of these and run my media directly on a nice TV.

At past reunions, I’ve created fact sheets and even quizzes about the family. For the really industrious, create a quiz, tally up the scores, and give the top two or three some sort of prize.

Have an emcee

At every reunion I’ve attended, there have been attendees there I didn’t recognize. One way to mitigate such a problem is to have an emcee officiate some part of the reunion. Typically, this would be one of the more boisterous members of your family, particularly if you have no microphone handy. Say during meal time, the emcee could get everyone’s attention and then walk from table to table having everyone introduce themselves. Even better, have the emcee share stories and encourage others to share humorous or motivational family stories.

Play games

We had plenty of cards and board games on hand, although Euchre seemed to be the game of choice. For the really inventive, consider creating a “Family Jeopardy” type game to test one’s knowledge of the family.

Show your talent

Do you have family members that play an instrument, juggle, tell jokes, or have some other sort of talent? If so, consider organizing a family talent show at your reunion.

Think of the children

We had plenty of little ones running around and they grew bored pretty quickly. Fortunately, their parents and other willing relatives did well keeping them entertained. Having a safe area with toys and whatnot to keep the children entertained and give mom and dad a break will help make your reunion more pleasant.

If you must do genealogy

Most of my family doesn’t share the same passion for genealogy as I do and that’s perfectly OK–I just seem to forget this from time to time. I printed out several family group sheets of family from generations past thinking others might find that interesting. Most did not. I also printed out family group sheets of the families present hoping that they would help fill in some of the blanks I had. Unfortunately, I still have those blanks. As a note to myself, for next time, I need to spend some time gathering up what questions I might have–missing names, dates, locations, etc.–and get those answers directly from the individuals in question. In the past, though, I’ve printed up “amateur genealogist” business cards with my contact information and handed them out to family just in case the genealogy bug bites a family member later on.

What next?

How do you build upon a successful reunion event and prepare for the next one? For starters, think about how you might share photos and videos of the event with the attendees. Facebook? Google Drive? You might consider gathering feedback from the attendees through email or even a survey like SurveyMonkey.com. How was the location and time? Do you have a food suggestion for next year? Can you suggest at least one new activity we should do for next year? The organizers should reconvene and discuss things that went well and what did not. And since nothing is free, money should be discussed–should attendees pitch in a few dollars for next year?

So, these are just some of the ideas I took away from my family’s recent reunion. Here’s hoping your next one is great!

Move out skills

The Edit Your Life podcast recently aired a short episode about teaching life skills to your children. One of the co-hosts referred to such skills as “move out skills” which I find to be an awesome phrase that I’ve started using.

Getting your kids to buy-in to learning a new skill can be tough and the hosts had these nuggets of wisdom to help with some of those challenges:

  • Emphasize to your kids how little time it will take to learn a given skill. Of course, this depends on the skill in question. For maximum effectiveness, you should keep your skills as bite-sized as possible.
  • Point out that very few people get a skill right the first time. Tell your children, “don’t be frustrated…you’re not good at this thing…yet, but you’ll get there.”
  • Use a recent experience as an example and catalyst for learning a life skill. With college looming over the head of my oldest, this is the perfect opportunity to teach her more household responsibilities.
  • Make it a challenge. Consider turning life skill learning into a competition with rewards at the end.
  • Encourage other adults in your child’s life to teach him skills. I really like this point. For one, this helps distribute some of your work to others. For another, I’m frankly not as skilled as other friends and family and wouldn’t be the greatest instructor on a lot of these ideas.
  • Start today. Enough said.

And in case you’re unsure what sort of skills to start teaching your young ones, the hosts also created a handy, “100 Life Skills You Can Teach Your Kids in 5 Minutes or Less:”

Those skills are fantastic! Here are ten more I’d add to the list:

  1. Balance a checkbook, reconcile credit card statements, and, in general, manage your finances
  2. General computer skills especially with regard to security
  3. Air up a tire (maybe even change one)
  4. Identify when there’s an issue with the car (that engine light generally means something bad is going on)
  5. Operate a drill
  6. Put together a piece of furniture (bonus points for Ikea)
  7. Go grocery shopping with coupons
  8. Use a can opener (both manual and electric)
  9. Mow the grass and learn basic lawnmower maintenance skills
  10. Check and change the furnace filter

 

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